The thing is about happy-ness, it is not a default option but the good news is, you can choose it. Most people think that they need external factors such as money, relationships, nice stuff, even more money, to be happy. But the thing is, happiness derived from these are fleeting. What happens when the money runs out? What happens when your BF/GF or husband/wife leaves you? Your world ends, your happiness is gone.
It took me many, many moons and brick walls before I realised that happiness from within is the type that lasts and we need to choose happiness in order to set the wheels in motion in pursuit of our own happiness. And I discovered myself that the best type of happiness is the happiness that we give to others. Learnt this simple but profound truth after reading this book “Why I Make Myself Unhappy”, written by Tsem Rinpoche.
So, what are you waiting for? Choose happy-ness. Give happy-ness.
I was an on and off vegetarian for some years before I decided to become a full-time vegetarian. My journey as a vegetarian has been a rather easy transition with so many delish eats available at all hours of the day in Malaysia.
As a vegetarian, I get many amusing and sometimes rather annoying remarks thrown my way. One of the remarks is that am not a full-time or “real” vegetarian since I eat garlic and onions. I once got kinda miffed at someone (a HUGE meat eater, no less!) who told me that am not a REAL vegetarian as I was happily chomping on garlic and onions. I tried to tell this person that I have not touched meat for some number of years but this person still insisted that am not a true vegetarian. You see, in Malaysia, Chinese who are vegetarians are mostly Mahayana Buddhists and they do not consume garlic and onions. Due to this, it is a common perception that all Chinese who are vegetarians cannot eat garlic and onions or to qualify as a vegetarian, one must refrain from consuming garlic and onions.
Hence, why I am inspired write this post to shed some light on the different types of vegetarianism. Basically, a vegetarian is someone who does not eat meat. Meat covers the usual beef, chicken, pork, lamb, seafood or anything with a life that moves, eats or makes noises. However, there are different classifications due to the different food combinations that the individual decides to consume. So, here are the different types of vegetarianism.
So, which vegetarian are you? Not that it really matters as at the end of the day, what matters more is that you made a conscious choice of a non-harming lifestyle. Whether you are a REAL vegetarian or not, at least you know that you are not harming any living creature to feed your gastronomic need.
I was driving home with my kids tonight when something totally unexpected happened. As I was turning off into our exit along NKVE, there was a huge trailer on the next lane to my right. Suddenly, there was a loud noise that sounded like an explosion. It was so loud that I actually felt a stab of pain in my chest. I was shocked naturally and was so worried that the trailer would lose control and crash into us. I was oddly calm and switched to the lane to move further away from the trailer.
Thankfully, the trailer didn’t crash into us and I didn’t lose control of my Batmobile from the utter shock. As we were approaching the Setia Alam toll, Son No. 1 said that it’s amazing that I was still driving steadily. I told him that Protector was protecting us. We immediately said a prayer of thanks to Dorje Shugden. Later, the kids told me that they saw a strip of thingy flying out from under the trailer tyres on the road. They seem to think that one of the tyres exploded. I can’t say for sure as I did not see it. Hey, I needed to focus on the road and calm my racing heart, right?
Tonight, I am reminded again how fortunate we are to have a Protector in our lives.
I sometimes think that Yoda is a Buddhist. As jumbled as his sentences may be, he has some pretty profound quotes like this one. So. Dharmic. If you don’t want any suffering, take Yoda’s advice. Don’t hate.
You would have turned 94 today. I still miss you very much, Mama. I never thought the day would come when we have to part from this lifetime. But the reality in life where nothing is permanent, the day came on 18 July this year. While my heart bled for losing you but part of me was glad that you are no longer suffering in your old, weary and sickly body. You and grandpa left a gaping hole on my heart but am very thankful to have had both of you as my grandparents in this short life time. The both of you stood in as both parents and grandparents and in a sense, am truly fortunate to have had a childhood filled with love and wonderful memories.
Mama, I inherited more of you that I could ever imagine. I realised this even more as I looked at your photo that was placed in front of your coffin. I have your smile, high forehead and chin. And I also hope I will have your thick wavy hair that is a nice shade of silver grey in my twilight years. I know that I have inherited your love for flowers, sense of unconventional thinking and stubborn nature.
What I hope and pray for is that I have inherited your resilience, perseverance and faith that would carry me far in my spiritual path. While we both chose different spiritual paths, am thankful that you provided me with a solid foundation of what is good and what is bad. Your unwavering faith in your chosen path serves as an inspiration to me in my journey towards my final destination.
In the early years when you embraced Christianity, it was really rough for you and grandpa. I felt so helpless not being able to help you much but I am so glad that I was at your baptism to witness your rebirth into the kingdom of God. It was such a beautiful ceremony that moved me. To be able to see you and grandpa commit yourselves to your God was precious. Years later when I took my refuge vows to commit myself to Buddhism, I wished you could be there with me but I knew that it would have be really tough for you to travel so far.
During your eulogy, I mentioned that one of the things that I will remember you and grandpa is your faith in Jesus and how this has and will continue to inspire me in my own spiritual journey. Although in the earlier part of your journey as a Christian was a huge challenge, you did not give up and chose to rely completely on God. Your faith not only sustained you right till the end, but it deepened and your complete love for Jesus is something not many have. I hope that I have that same faith, commitment and endurance in my own spiritual practice. Just as how you have relied your God to carry you through your darkest times, I too, will rely on my Guru and Protector to carry me through all my challenges in life.
You may have left a huge hole in my heart but you have also left me with a valuable teaching on the importance of spiritual practice and how unwavering faith, is crucial right at the most important part of your life… at the time of death. Your peaceful and serene face was a testament of what a good death should be – free of fear and any attachments.
Happy birthday, Mama! May you be well and happy wherever you are.
One of the things that never fails to give me a boost in spirits is some uplifting words of wisdom. Sharing one that I hold close to my heart as I think that the world would be a better place if everyone practised kindness.